Zip It, Lock It, and Put It In Your Pocket.

Adult bullies are an interesting species to me. Sometimes I wonder if they even know what they say can effect the person on the receiving end for weeks! I got made fun of a lot growing up. My legs were long and skinny, I had braces which came with a headgear, my hair had a mind of its own when I hit puberty, not to mention my boobs were not the biggest on campus. Mom’s thought due to my thinness I had an eating disorder or was on some kind of drugs, so some of them forbid their daughters to hang out with me. The guys would ask me if I stepped in an ant bed in reference to my chest. I received the nickname Simba (due to my hair) and Noodles (due to my legs). It wasn’t as fun as it could of been, if people would of excepted me for me, but kids are freaking mean, and it taught me to get tough. When college came along, people dug me. I had the occasional (from mostly females) “I thought you were a total bitch that’s why I never talked to you, but I’m so glad we became friends!” attitude. But those comments were few and far between. Other than that the bullying stopped. Then I had kids….2 kids actually, and the comments are popping back up. All concerning my weight. I’m 5’9 and I weigh in at 130. I’m healthy as a horse, workout, eat right, and live well. So why the bullying again? Whose business is it to question my weight, to guess my weight, or to wonder how I stay so skinny all out loud mind you. I’m over it. I’m done. I learned a new phrase from my 5 yr old that pertains to bullies of any age….zip it, lock it, and put it in your pocket. Can we not all just be nice?!?! Like when we were little little?! Instead of commenting against someone’s features, compliment them; and then ask yourself why am I driven to comment against this other person? When you can answer the question, do yourself a huge favor and work on YOUR issue. That’s why we pick on others. It’s because we’ve got something brewing inside that we haven’t dealt with. I even have this issue at times. Honing in on a feature that I find “annoying”. I can have a rough side to my personality, which some may find offensive, when I’m just trying to be comical. When anyone makes another feel uncomfortable in their own skin, thats a no dice feature that needs to be worked on. So, do the world a favor and deal with yourself first, and if you don’t want to deal with yourself….then zip it, lock it, and put it in your pocket.

Categories: Save By Giving, Save It For Your Family, Save Relationships, Save That Thought, Save Yourself Thru Growth | Tags: , , , , | Leave a comment

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