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As a full time stay at home mom I have to admit I work my tail off. And I’m rarely at home!! I don’t even know why stay at home is a part of my job description for crying out loud. Through the past 7.5 years of staying at home I’ve had phrases and questions thrown at me from women such as:
A) Women like you don’t work!
B) When are you going to go back to work?
C) So, what do you do all day?
D) Some of us have to go to work now.
E) I’d tell your daughter I was coming back from work; but she probably wouldn’t understand.
Sounds pretty intense to hear right? When I get hit with these words I can’t help but wonder where is this ideology coming from? Ignorance, jealousy, self righteousness, or just actual innocence of not knowing what stay at home moms do. I’m going to believe that it’s the later guess because I’m going to assume positive intent. Mainly because if it’s the first 3 then that is just going against their own species, and not really showing that sisterhood love we need to give one another. I think it’s interesting that if someone partakes in home”work”, “working” out at the gym, volunteer “work”, missionary “work”, or “working” for wages. Then by damned that’s working. But if you stay at home that is not work.
Well, I’m here to reassure you that being a stay at home mom is work and is undervalued. If stay at home moms got paid we would gross over $100,000.00/year depending on the economy! That’s huge! We clock in sometimes over a 90 hour work week.
Now, working moms take on two shifts. The “paid” shift and the “unpaid” shift. The paid shift meaning the job they earn wages at, the unpaid shift meaning when they come home and they are full on mom. When I was in college I read the book “The Second Shift”. This book is a game changer for mentality and I highly recommend it as a must read. You can find it here. I also want to say that I see working moms in just as a high regard as I see stay at home moms. We are both working our tails off to handle life, the hours we work, and the curve balls that are thrown at us. When I saw the latest Similac commercial I was slapped in the face when I heard the term “part time mom” come out of the stay at home mom’s mouth. I thought to myself does this term actually exist and is it used against working mothers?! If it is, it needs to stop! The bashing needs to end from both sides. We are all working. Whether you are getting paid for it or not! Enough is enough. Support one another. Don’t tear each other down. Get educated with what each niche does for their children and celebrate that person’s path.
I help lead my daughter’s Girl Scout troop and yesterday I had the privilege to conduct their meeting. One area in our meeting was talking about preventing the spread of disease. I decided to have the girls wash their hands to demonstrate a way to prevent the spread of germs. They lined up at the sink in the clubhouse and one by one I watched them wash their hands. It was eye opening to see how many girls didn’t really know how to wash their hands. I had a few that had to restart the process and I had to teach them the correct way. With that being said; if you have kiddos carve out 5 minutes out of your day and ask them to wash their hands in front of you. Check to make sure they are taking their time, rubbing the soap all over the hands, and not pumping the liquid soap out only to allow it to flow out of their cupped hands into the sink. With all the yucky viruses going around this season. And the fact that the flu shot sucked donkey this year. We need to be proactive as a community for our health. So, take a few moments and check out their hand washing. It could save you a trip to the doctor’s office and save you some benji’s in the process.
Feeling the baby kick (There is life in you.)
Your hair grows like a speed demon (You could literally grow your hair like Crystal Gayle.)
That “glow” ( All I can say is MAC’s bronzer ain’t got nothin’ on that glow.)
You get doted on ( if you drop something….someone will pick it up, doors are held open for you, people let you cut in line, AND seats are given up for you.)
Being a vessel for life (ONE of the most important jobs a woman can receive.)
Watching your belly grow (Too cool for school.)
Fingernail growth (You can put fake nails to shame.)
Getting away with rockin’ your hubby’s t-shirts (Seriously one of my top fives. )
Food (Fulfilling a craving is FABULOUS.)
A new kind of sexy (Your body is changing and you might as well roll with it. Time to feel empowered.)
Sonogram appointments (That 20 week profile picture is the bomb!)
Boobs (sorry if I mentioned that already.)
Getting ready for baby (Tiny clothes, nursery colors, gadgets, and baby gizmos.)
Nesting (You clean and organize like you received a degree in it. And miss the power once it’s gone. I have literally thought to myself “maybe I should get knocked up so I can re-organize my kitchen” #truestory )
Baby Shower (It’s an excuse to have a party with your friends!)
Sex Positions (Have fun with it. Laugh about the ones you can’t do any more and explore for new options. In the words of John Mayer “your body is a wonderland”.)
Gender reveal (wether it’s through a sonogram or delivery it’s an awesome moment.)
Picking out a name (Who cares what others think….it’s your baby, you name it.)
Pregnancy massages (I love the hole in the mat that I can put my belly in!! It gives me the opportunity to lay on my stomach without laying on my stomach.)
Headaches, Nausea, Vomiting (And thats only the beginning.)
Exhaustion (Even though you are growing life like a superhero, you don’t have the stamina like one.)
Peeing (It’s always happening.)
Weird hairs popping up in weird places (this seems to happen to me only when pregnant and I have no idea where they go once the baby comes out of my body. I will say though, I am thankful they disappear.)
Gaining weight (My pre-pregnancy weight is about a buck thirty so when I become pregnant it’s interesting how my muscles handle the weight gain. P.S. They don’t. Which is why when I go to sit down on my knees, my calves actually feel like they are going to explode due to the pressure.)
Being out of breath (going up stairs will make you feel like you have a serious breathing problem even if it is only eight stairs to climb.)
Your growing belly (I seem to whack my belly with corners of walls and opening or shutting doors because my brain hasn’t quite gotten use to the tummy’s expansion.)
Your dying thirst for water (This thirst will hit you like you have been in a desert for 40 days straight.)
Sleeping at night (You are constrained to only a few positions and you have to pee.)
Back pain (Self explanatory.)
Sex Drive (It’s either dead like your roses in the winter or revved up like a teenage boy’s dream.)
Losing sight of your daisy (some words of wisdom: 1)Do not try to find it with a mirror and 2)Just know it will come back next spring.)
Balance (since your front side is protruding out you have the capability of stumbling like a drunk; so walk with caution.)
Pregnancy Brain (Your IQ will literally drop about 25 points give or take.)
Body Temperature (Your an oven. Enough said.)
Boobs resting on the belly (Such a weird feeling and makes me realize how much my body is actually changing.)
Constipation (Once again, self explanatory.)
Not being able to lay on your stomach (This really sucks if you are a stomach sleeper like me.)