Save Yourself Thru Growth

Money Saving Tips For Lent

Check out these tips that will save your benji’s from going bye bye during Lent. 

Stop expensive habits to save yourself some benji’s! For example cigarettes can be a huge money pit within a budget. Cut it out and save your lungs and or health!

Don’t buy anything you don’t need. Impulse buying can rack up a receipt quick. Get in and get out when it comes to shopping. Stick to your list and don’t wander around aimlessly “looking” around. If you look you will find. Also stay out of stores you know you are impulsive in.

Save your house from clutter and organize! Why not get organized?! It’s good for the mind and body. You’ve got time to do a big project; so take your time and enjoy it. Tackle room to room; and maintain the habit of organization. I’ve got great tips on my Pinterest board “Save The Mess and Organize” you can see here.

While on the topic of organization…..if you’r already organized like a pro or want to begin to organize; donate, sell, or toss items during this Lenten period. You can easily snag an opportunity to de clutter, give to people in need or make some benji’s back! 

Refrain from eating out. Just thinking of this bums me; but what makes me happy is the savings I’ll earn through the process! There are so many recipes available and cooking apps that there isn’t a reason that this money challenge can’t be done. My Pinterest board “Save Benji’s and Cook” has some great ideas! Check out my board here.

Be Aware of daily deals within your area. Groupon, Living Social, and Amazon Local are awesome!! Signup for their email blasts and check out the savings.

No purchases on credit card/s. It’s self explanatory and will reduce your debt. You know who you are if this challenge is for you.

Instead of movie theatre tickets rent from home. The movies can be a fifty dollar or more ordeal. It’s a season to go without the big screen. Pocket the benji’s and enjoy the payoff. 

Start a weekly budget meeting with yourself, partner, or family. Get on track, plan, and head towards savings. Keep up with your weekly meeting after the season is over with. This is a strong habit to stay consistent with.

What’s cool about the season of Lent is that it lasts just long enough to allow you time to either make or break a habit. So, seize the opportunity to start something beneficial for yourself and your journey of faith. 

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A Confession About My Unborn Son

Writing the words “my son” brings tears to my eyes.  I am a mother of two faith filled, incredible, hilarious, understanding, beautiful, and giving daughters.  They have made me the woman I am today and I will be forever grateful to them for that.   My soul has always yearned for a son as well.  Not only has my selfish flesh reminded me of my want for a boy; society reminds me too.  Whether it’s a complete stranger who sees me with my girls and poses the question, “well you gonna go for a boy?” or if it’s the quips from others reminding me of the expenses and emotional “burdens” girls will put on me.  The combination made me scared to have another girl.  My husband and I decided to have a third child; but only after digging deep within our souls.  We wanted to want a third NOT because we were going for a boy.  But because we wanted another gift from God.  We spent much time in prayer and conversations with one another asking God to purge us of these selfish wants and societal perspectives on girls.  We listened to what God told us to do before we began our journey of conception and took our steps of faith towards our third gift.

This entire timeline is about two years old.  Which proves the patience and guidance we had to gain to get where we currently are.  I am going to fast forward and let you know what happened on a Tuesday because I want to share how awesome God is.  On this Tuesday it was forty eight hours before our sonogram where we could find out if we were having a boy or a girl.  Let me preface by saying we had decided to wait until delivery for the baby’s gender reveal.  People told us that it was an amazing experience and if you have the opportunity, to at least do it once.  I trusted these words and couldn’t deny that it had to be an incredible feeling within the delivery room.  I agreed to do this for the encounter.  But also because I was still privately struggling with the issue of gender and wanting a son.  Even though I thought I had really given this issue over to God, here it was creeping back on me.  As my pregnancy bump grew, the questions from others asking, “so, do you want a boy this time?” was not helping tame the emotions inside me.  I figured that if I waited for delivery I could hold my baby and at that point the issue of gender would just disappear.  So, back to Tuesday….. I was a hot mess and struggling.  I knew I was thinking WAY too much about the boy/girl thing and I was letting the voices of evil creep in.  I should have been focused on God gifting us with a third baby.  Making the gift of new life the center.  I spoke with my husband about my emotions explaining that I wasn’t sure if I wanted to wait for delivery anymore.  I told him I may want to find out; but I also didn’t want to loose the experience of the delivery room surprise.  He told me not to worry.  And that we have plenty of time because the sonogram wasn’t until Thursday.  I took his advice and enjoyed my evening with him.  Regardless.  I had to admit.  The root of the emotion wasn’t that I was confused about when to find out – at the sonogram or going through the journey in delivery….it was that I was afraid I was pregnant with another girl.  I feel awful typing thoses words out; but I think there are parents that can relate to this thought process; so I don’t feel too alone.

Wednesday came around and the emotional wave was swelling inside me.  I was hiding my fear of a third girl to the outside.  Even to my husband.  I decided to talk to one of my best friends about my truths and she told me that she and her husband chose to walk out of their sonogram appointment with an envelope in hand that had the gender of their baby.  I thought that was a great idea because even though it sounds like torture.  It was comforting for me to have the knowledge within our grasp.  So, at any point.  If we chose to look at it.  We could.  I spoke to my husband about it and he thought it was a cool idea.  So, that was the plan Wednesday night.  Thursday morning, the day of the sonogram; my soul was tossing and turning.  I woke up at 6 am to get my first born out of bed and ready for school.  I walked into her room and heard Plumb’s song “Lord, I’m Ready Now”.  I realized at that second in time and in space how much I was NOT ready for the truth.  I walked into my daughter’s closet and fell to my knees and wept uncontrollably.  I told God I was so sorry for not being thankful for this gift He had given us in an unconditional manner.  I told Him I needed him to guide me today and to let His voice be heard through this process.  I told Him that I knew He knew what was best for me because He created me.  I asked to have this gender issue removed from me because I didn’t want to think about the topic anymore and I wanted to bring my focus back on Him.  I stood up and decided to go down and find my husband and confess to him that the reason for my emotional state was not confusion.  But fear.

I was afraid of not receiving a son.  My husband hugged me and told me he loved me and that whatever that baby is, it is exactly what God wants for us.  He even told me that he wanted a son too.  But he also knew God’s will was the most important because it is what is best.  I felt more calm and at ease and just decided to let God handle the day from that moment forward.  I got our girls off to school and decided to stop by church before the appointment to have some alone time.  I walked inside the sanctuary and sat on that pew and poured my heart out again asking for strength, forgiveness, and guidance.  Driving to the appointment I felt emotional.  But I felt it in a secure way.  I knew God had me.  And He was driving the day.  I remember sitting next to my husband waiting to hear my name called.  The whole time I was talking to God.  Just asking Him to keep guiding us and for me to hear His voice.  Then….I heard my name called.  We head to the sonogram room and I hop up on the table.  The tech tells me that she is going to check my cervix first.  She put the transducer on my abdomen and we see an image for about three to five seconds that burst our hearts wide open.  We saw a boy.  She pulled the transducer back up quickly.  But my husband and I knew what we saw.  She asked if we wanted to know what the gender was because she was aware of the image that just flashed on the screen as well.  Of course we said yes because we already knew!  She put the transducer back down and there he was….our son.  Laying on his back, sucking on his fingers, legs spread wide with his man parts showing.  My husband and I started crying and hugging so hard that the tech started crying with us.  The song “Our God Is An Awesome God” started playing on the tech’s radio.  It was a gentle and powerful reminder that God brought us to that moment and the entire process belonged to Him.

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Yo Teach!

After I got done reading “Stop The Bashing” this writing bubbled up……

    I get the main course of her article; which is quit bashing. I’m all for that!! I’m also all for education, and a damn good one.  I wish every human on the planet had the privilege to become educated.  I also believe teaching is a calling.  Having parents in education I remember their day to day grind and it is no joke.  I remember thinking (in my freshman year of college) there is no way I’m getting a degree in education because the time and money in my opinion didn’t balance out.  I can NOT imagine public education, private education, hybrid education, or homeschool education not existing; that would be horrifying for our country, our world,  and our people!  With that being said the author needs to understand she took on a “calling” that sits in a HOT seat.  When you make a choice to sit in a hot seat you need to get ready for the bashers because they are coming regardless.  I have private schooled, homeschooled, and this year we are doing a hybrid approach (half homeschool and half private school).  EVERY choice I make someone has something to say about it ranging from “bless your heart” to “you must be scared of public school” to  “you’r bubbling your child”.  I’ve realized to thicken my armor because anything that’s worth it is not easy.  People who don’t want to sit in the hot seat usually are the loudest.  I’ve literally learned to silence those people because they are not worth it.  Those people don’t fully understand what this author does in her classroom, nor what I do in mine; but yet this type of person wants to judge us, give us their opinion, and make sarcastic comments that at times can cut to the bone.  It’s not needed and unwanted.  There is also an air among parents and teachers too; lets not lie about it.  I met it full force when I enrolled my child into the private sector then met it again with homeschooling.  I would of thought teachers, family, and friends would be thrilled my child was getting an education no matter what sector my kiddo was in.  That hasn’t been the case though in my experience.  Teachers and parents need to come together from all institutions.  The public, private, and homeschool sectors.  Because, yes; we are all in this together!  Instead of looking at each other and trying to figure out who has it better, and which sector of education will create the most successful human being; let’s just chalk it up to the fact that we are all teachers (degreed in education or not); teaching students towards success.  Let’s unite and come together and realize all teachers are somewhere in the balance of feeling exhausted to elated about their calling.  As teachers we need to keep ourselves lifted up and encouraged because teachers are imperative to the human race.  We also need to understand there is a difference in each sector.  That’s why the difference exists; and that is ok!  Who cares if someone private schools due to their religion.  That is their right!  That is what makes this country a good place to reside in….choices.  If a family wants to send their child to public school; fantastic!  Private sectors and homeschool groups should support public school without any snippets containing a scary ass public school statistic.  If someone wants to post a reason why they homeschool then fine!  Let the homeschoolers unite.  You never know if that post will reach a parent that wants to homeschool but has some fears.  Possibly through that post the parent can find courage and contact the homeschooling parent with their questions to help fulfill their child’s needs.  There is nothing wrong with that.  If classroom teachers want to spread their Pinterest love all over their classroom and post pics then thats sounds fine with me!  Let’s get pumped up about school!  Show off those amazing classrooms and encourage other teachers to do the same….even the teachers at home!  We don’t have to use our differences to tear each sector a part.  Let’s use these differences for the greater good.  Just because someone posts about their world does NOT mean they are against your world.  Teachers and parents take a hot seat in education regardless of what side of the fence they sit on.  It’s damned if we do and damned if we don’t.  We need to work on respecting each other’s choices and opinions.  We don’t have to attach a negative feeling to a word such as “public school”, “private school”, or “homeschool”.  By doing that we are creating a disservice to our fellow teacher, friend, or parent.  It’s ok to gather information and make a decision based on your best interest; but don’t bash.  So, remember this: if you a working part in the teacher/parent/student learning process, and feel your booty getting warm……then pay attention to the why. You will probably realize it’s because you are doing something you were called to do.  So follow your calling and create greatness.  Have a marvelous school year and remember to play nice on the playground.


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Monday Motivation

One of my favorite quotes that stood out to me in this video: “Don’t cry to give up, cry to keep going. Don’t cry to quit; your already in pain, your already hurt. Get a reward from it!”

What quote stands out to you?  Happy Monday and go get ’em tiger!


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A Veggie Growing Cheat Sheet


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It Comes In Threes

What is up with the whole, “it comes in threes” thing? It’s like a mystery of the universe or something! We just hit this phenomenon head on this weekend. It was our car, our refrigerator, and our fence line; all broke 😣. The end result for each example is to replace each one! Whew!!! That’s a lot of dough for the Saving Benji house! Money is stressful; and when you have to pay a large amount at once unexpectedly, it can be even more stressful! Thankfully though; we have an emergency savings that is saving our tails. So, during this trial I am definitely thanking the Lord for that blessing. Now, I do have to admit something about myself. The new car that we are going to buy isn’t a new car; it used, and the fridge won’t be at the top of the line, and the fence won’t be stunning; and yes their is an area in me that wants new. I do struggle with this arena in my mind, because new is sooooo shiny and exciting! On the flip side; what’s nice about buying the used car, the not stunning fence, and not the “top of the line” fridge is that we will pay in cash (according to our budget), and have zero payments; which I love!!!!!! Freedom!!!!! By lowering our emergency fund to cover costs, this will mean a strict budget plan to rebuild our family’s emergency fund. This entails Sunday night budget meetings, meal planning, and not spending too much money on the materialism side of life. This is good though. It allows us to be disciplined, in control of our cash flow, AND accomplish a goal; which allows our family to feel empowered!! So, if your able, try and start an emergency fund. Make sacrifices and sometimes choose to go without what everyone else has and bank those Benjamin’s! Ya never know when you will get caught up in a whirlwind of expenditures.


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Rituals To Reach Your Potential

I am in love with the simplicity in these rituals!! Please read here to install these rituals into your life! I personally can’t wait to get these implemented. What are some rituals you’d like to share that help you reach your potential?

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Detaching With Love

This read is awesome because it shows you how to detach with love, from someone else’s behavior, that may cause you to feel unsettled. It shows you how you are in control of your emotions.


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“Releasing The Old Ball and Chain”

This article has amazing life insight!! A definite read to understand how to avoid judgement of others!

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Humanity Can Be Beautiful

Restore your faith now.


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